To-Do Lists rank highly among the trickiest of all types of note-taking. The trouble with them began around the dawn of history, when Moses came down with arguably the most famous ‘to-do’ list in recorded history. Despite there being but 10 items, it was nonetheless complicated by not just religious questions, but also because of all the ‘to-don’ts” listed. Also, the list was on stone, and thus heavy. Still, it was an excellent early attempt.
In the millennia since Moses, the self-help industry has offered many great insights into ‘to-do’ lists. Among the many things to learn is that scratching things off is bad. Scratching things out trains a ‘negative mindset’ with regard to one’s ‘to-do’s’ (or rather, one’s ‘having-done’s’). Instead, use a check mark. A check mark affirms. A check mark congratulates. A check mark is triumphant. It’s the cheeriest of all shorthand symbols. Nike rode the check mark into obscene wealth.
Thou shalt not scratch out one’s completed work.
Thou shalt use check marks instead. ✓
But the path toward optimal to-doing is long; the traps are many. A common snag is over-reliance. A personal story is relevant here: One time I went on a weeks-long vacation away from my work-a-day routine because to-do lists had come to dominate my life. I wouldn’t tie my shoelace without first entering it on my list. But the vacation was difficult. The unstructured time of my vacation just made me fidgety. I felt like I had to perform spontaneous acts of random enjoyment, but what? Buy a water gun? Splash in puddles? Nah. So, within days, I reverted back to my to-do-lists. I wrote down things like “Go for a walk”, “take pictures of monkeys”, “have lunch”. Check. Check. Check.
I eventually learned that the sophistication and elegance of a well-writ ‘to-do’ is that it designates some sort of bridge between things as they are now, and things as your best self envisions them in a realistic future. In other words, every to-do should be your best next-step toward a desired outcome. Otherwise, trash it. This sounds obvious, but most to-dos don’t hold up to scrutiny. At least, many of mine didn’t.
This is a rather long and rambling introduction to a few of the many reasons why I love this wedding. Specifically, every photographer has a dreamy “to-do” list. Maybe a “hope-to-do” list is more to the point. There are certain things that I want from my career as a photographer, and since I’m very likely going to grad school in September of this year, I’m starting to be very happy when I check those things off. This wedding allowed me to check a few important things on my ‘hope to-do-list’.
One more backyard wedding before we hang up our cameras. ✓
A party in a yurt. ✓
Groom crying upon first glance of bride. ✓
Funny cork-exploding-from-bottle moment. ✓
Add to this that C & R were classy, warm-hearted, beautiful people, obviously in love and surrounded by a supportive and loving network of friends and family. Add to this the warm September sun peeping through the trees. Add to this the rustic whimsy and offbeat grace that comes with ornate teacups, a yurt, Turkish lamps, feathers in the stunning bouquet, and a suit that matches the truck. I’m very grateful to have had the opportunity to be a photographer at this wedding. It was, moment by moment, a beautiful place.
Hope you enjoy some of our favourite moments:
Venue: The backyard, in all its late summer/early autumn glory. ✓
Yurt: Little Foot Yurts ✓
Flowers, Decor: Paige and Peacock Event Design ✓
Bridal Gown: Katrina Tuttle Bridal ✓
Bridesmaid’s Dresses: BridesMade ✓
Hair & Makeup: Interlude Spa in Dartmouth ✓
Men’s attire: Modern Suiting ✓